Don't Shrink Back!

Sometimes it’s hard to start something when you don’t know the end result. Specifically, building relationships with unbelievers can be intimidating when you don’t know how the story will end. You may pursue a friendship with someone for a season, and then you may drift apart. On the other hand, this person could come to know Christ and become one of your closest friends.

For those of you who shrink back with fear of the unknown, there is good news! It’s not our responsibility to make sure that an unbeliever accepts Christ.

John 6:44 says, “No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws them.” It does not say, “No one can accept Christ unless you convince them that the gospel is true.”

Toward the end of the past semester, I ran into one of my non-Christian friends on my way to class. We hadn’t seen each other in a long time, and I felt bad for neglecting that relationship.

Afterward, I thought to myself, “Should I try to spend time with her before the end of the semester? She’s probably busy studying, and then I won’t see her for an entire summer.” I didn’t know if putting in the effort was “worth it,” meaning I didn’t think I’d have the opportunity to really present the gospel to her.

Oh, how wrong I was! Our reason for building relationships with unbelievers is not to explain the ABCs of Christianity in one sitting; we build relationships because we love people! We love them with a genuine, Christ-like love, which doesn’t have a time limit or an expiration date.

God opened my eyes before the end of the semester, and I was able to spend more time with my friend. I look forward to continuing our friendship this fall when we both return to school.

I encourage you to think of a nonbeliever in your life and ask yourself what small steps you can take to further that relationship. God will work on their hearts in His own timing!

Rachel Sinclair is a student at Samford University and loves to share people’s stories. Contact her at

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