How to Love

Many times I have wished the English language did a better job at breaking down the word “love.” In the Hebrew language, “love” is broken down into raya, ahava, and dod. In Greek we read of phileo, agape, and eros. Both languages break down “love” into the aspects of friendship, commitment/relational, and passion. Why does the English language ball all these aspects into just one word?

Our relationship with the Lord should be our number one priority and should be the first love of our life. But in our culture and with the definition of love as we have, it is difficult for us to grasp and identify what this looks like. How do I begin to compare and define love for my husband, my children, my family, and my Lord? It can’t be the same for all. We are talking about the love for a Savior Who died for us, an eternal love, and a love for those in my life that is an earthly, temporal love.

The struggle and challenge is a daily decision. We must choose to begin our day either as how the world would have us, placing our focus on me, my world, and my needs or as how Jesus instructed His disciples (us included, even 2,000+ years later) with our eyes and heart on Him first. Our focus is to be on God, laying our life, our time, and our will at the cross, the place of ultimate surrender. When we give all the pieces of our self and this world to Him, He will take us, place us, and bless us in ways we cannot even fathom. When we love Him first and foremost, it is like hitting a button that puts the rest of the pieces of ourselves, demands, and loves of our life in place, the best place—God’s hands.

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these. (Mark 12:30–31, NIV)

“He must become greater; I must become less” (John 3:30, NIV)

Jenn is a wife and mother of two boys and one girl, she enjoys putting puzzles together with her kiddos, watching reruns of Friends with her hubby, and trying new recipes. She has a passion for encouraging women to live on mission. She also writes of the adventures with her “people” (children), at

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